Do you -really- love your parents? Take a moment to think about this. Society tells us that parents must be loved, well because they're our parents! They gave us life, the best gift of all! Does that mean we are supposed to be eternally grateful and bow at their feet every day? I would disagree.
Just because someone gives you a gift, does not mean you owe them one back. Respect is earned; love is earned. Parents do not understand this. Just because you did me one favor does not mean you have my eternal love and respect. I'm sorry but if you treat me badly, that's it, we're done. You'll be on my hate list.
I'm not saying I hate my parents. That is not the point. I'm saying you should not be forced to love someone just because of a blood relation. You can't love everyone, can you?
Can you think of someone you dislike because of personality? They never did anything to make you dislike them, you just have clashing personalities. This is not something you can control. So why is that we're not allowed to dislike our parents?
You could argue that it is okay to dislike your parents under some circumstances, like abuse. Society will allow this hatred. But they will not allow a simple dislike.
Try telling someone you dislike your parents, but be careful for the million questions that will follow: "Why what did they do?", "Did something happen?", "Was your childhood that bad?". No, my parents just suck.
You're allowed to dislike a peer for being lazy and grumpy, but if your parent is the same way you must love them. It becomes a "quirk" that you have to live with and be happy about, instead of hate it for what it is.
I refuse to love my parents just because society expects me to.
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ReplyDeleteThis is an interesting one for me. I love my mom because we're so alike. We get along well. I don't care for my dad one bit, and that's not necessarily because anything happened. It's just how it is. I think there is a certain expectation for kids to love their parents, but I think there is also a maternal sense to it, too. I mean in nature, it is rare for the young to stay with their parents once they're self-sufficient. It just takes us, for whatever reason, a lot longer to become such.
ReplyDeleteI really liked this line: "Just because someone gives you a gift, does not mean you owe them one back." It's a good point, and not one that people often consider.
I think this will be an intriguing blog. Society has its faults, but i have to agree with Renee. I think its your personal choice to conform to society's expectations.
ReplyDeleteI understand your point though. We may not admit it, but much of our behaviour is from society. For instance, all our morals and deciding what's wrong and what's right. Society taught us these.
I have to say I love my parents, but it's not because of society.
To each his/her own, I guess.